Such changes must come from your own change in attitude about how you approach marriage and how you communicate with your spouse. In fact, even if you find your partner relatively unsupportive of creating a happier marriage the actions YOU take will not only make things better but will create reciprocal actions from your spouse from a well known psychological reaction of feeling indebted.
You will find a lot more thank you's coming back your way if you do this. What stops many people doing this is a feeling of resentment or apathy to certain situations. Even if it is your husband's job to take out the garbage and that has been organized .